BFB Real-Life Stories

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BFB Real-Life Story: Carrie, 30
Carrie has her hands full at parties—especially when there’s a buffet. Her BFB loads up on just about everything.

“Once, at a family reunion, he couldn’t decide on a dessert, so he got all of them,” says Carrie, who’s biggest party weakness is cheesecake. “Carrot cake—cheesecake—apple pie, chocolate eclairs, pecan pie, red velvet cake, bread pudding.” Of course, her BFB’s smorgasbord scored huge laughs with the rest of the table, including Carrie—until she ended up eating them right along with him. “When he got full, I ate what was left. Which was about half of all of that!”

BFB Real-Life Story: Avantika, 28
Your BFB doesn’t have to be fat in order to make it way too easy for you to gain weight. Avantika, 28, found out that even though her man’s slim and healthy, he can still weigh her down if she’s not careful.

“He eats constantly,” says Avantika, who has been with her now-fiancé for the past three years. “He can’t go more than one hour without getting hungry for another snack or meal.” Her soon-to-be hubby is also incredibly fit and exercises almost daily, which means he eats as much as he wants as often as he wants, without gaining weight. “I have to remind myself that, even though I work out, I have nowhere near the caloric requirements that he does,” says Avantika, recalling her initial five-pound gain when they first started dating. In order to help herself stay slim, she now shares meals with him when they go out — she knows he’ll eat more than half! — has a “no seconds” rule and tries to eat half the amount of carbs that he does. “I also had to lay down some ground rules about which snacks are not allowed in the house,” she says. “I don’t allow ice cream except for special occasions, because otherwise he’d buy a huge container and eat some every night while I either look on jealously, or break down and eat unnecessary dessert as well!”

BFB Real-Life Story: Carly, 21
A long-distance relationship may be hard to maintain, but as Carly found out, it’s not nearly as tough as keeping her waistline. Her off-again, on-again romance proves that BFBs can pack on the pounds.

“Adam and I have a vicious cycle that starts every summer,” says Carly, who has dated her BFB for the past two years. “I come home from school thin and in shape because I’ve spent the spring semester — away from him! — working out and watching what I eat. Over the summer, we go to nice dinners, go to a lot of movies — and therefore eat a lot of candy — and drink too much alcohol. Then, once school starts in the fall, I am so used to eating badly that I stick to those awful habits,” she says, frustrated that the close-to-10-pounds gain has caused her to throw away her favorite jeans. “Suddenly, Adam decides he’s fat — which he is, at that point — and wants to lose weight. So, we make a deal and both try to work out and eat healthier. He achieves his 10-pound weight loss goal in a matter of three weeks. I lose five pounds max in seven months!” And, of course, like all cycles, their couple weight gain returns once they’re back in the same zip code. “We start off the summer looking good and healthy, and gain it all back by August. And over and over it goes, literally, since sophomore year!”

BFB Real-Life Story: Carrie, 30
Carrie does just fine eating healthy . . . until the love of her life comes home with enough junk to sink any well-rounded diet.

“The man goes through a family-sized bag of Cheetos every week,” says Carrie. “I have great self-control if bad food is not in the house. But when he picks up a tube of cookie dough on his way home from work — which I have to bake, because he’ll burn them — how can I resist? One cookie turns into four. Then he breaks out the Cheetos and I figure ‘Hey, I already ate four cookies, what’s a handful of Cheetos going to do to me?’” Carrie tries to do the most of the shopping, but even on the rare occasion that her man makes it to the store, the damage he does in one round can have her snacking for days to come. “He buys Pop-Tarts, Cheetos, and cookies. All kinds of cookies. Then he’ll eat a few and leave the open bag on the kitchen counter — like I’m supposed to just walk past those.”